I have so many ideas I want to share! This post will be a wrap up videos, books and websites I am checking out so I can stay up to date on the most cutting edge parenting methods (and now you can too). First, I'll share that I had another successful workshop sharing “Positive Discipline” methods. I love sharing these ideas about parenting. I am happy to offer this pro-bono workshop at your business, school, agency or church. Heck, I will speak in a park about these methods at your playgroup! I love seeing people’s minds light up and their stance shift when they hear these ideas for the first time or when they are reminded to stay on the path toward more peaceful parenting. Email me today if you want to discuss a speaking opportunity: bridget.therapy@gmail.com.
When we stop trying to "fix" our kids and instead look at our own behavior the family WILL become more peaceful. Show them self-reflection and they will learn how to be self-reflective! Of course this is much more difficult that just typing that sentence. You need help, inspiration and a road map. Here are 5 new ideas to inspire you!
First a new link for you: consciousdiscipline.com this program is striving to teach parents to "...stay in control of ourselves and in charge of children in a manner that models the same skills we seek to teach." I think if you read the skills listed below, take them in and make them your own family life could become a bit more calm. You could brainstorm (at a family meeting) how to integrate these ideas into your life. Visit their website and check out their videos and free downloads. The system was created for schools but is also adapted for the home. Here are the main tenants of this method: 1) Conscious Skill (emerges from powers) 2) Life / Communication Skills 3) Composure (anger management, gratification delay, integrity). 4) Encouragement (pro-social skills: kindness, caring, helpfulness, interdependence, optimism, gratitude) 5) Assertiveness, (bully prevention, healthy boundaries, respect for self and others) 7) Choices (impulse control, goal achievement, and persistence) 8) Empathy (emotional regulation, perspective taking, honoring diversity, and honesty). 8) Positive Intent (cooperation, problem-solving, compassion, generosity) 9) Consequences (learn from your mistakes, Responsibility)
Second, "Shefali Tsabary, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist with a private practice in New York. She received her doctorate in Clinical Psychology from Columbia University, New York. She is the author of the multi-award-winning, The Conscious Parent. Heralded as a game-changer in the parenting genre, this book turns the traditional parenting paradigms on its head and revolutionizes how we raise our families." She has a TED talk, link below, and was recently on Oprah's "Super Soul Sunday". I plan to read the book and review it in a post later this summer. Here is the TED talk: www.youtube.com/watch?v=QM_PQ2WUD2k&feature=kp
Third, www.gostrengths.com is a program where, "kids learn research-based skills to cope with challenges, boost emotional intelligence, strengthen relationships, and improve behavior." You can get a glimpse into the program with some FREE lessons on their website and at this you tube link where kids can watch the videos. www.youtube.com/channel/UCoKF7x66T4W7emE6CzsupnQ
Fourth and Fifth: two professors I benefited greatly from in graduate school have written / re-rereleased books: "Mindful Discipline: A Loving Approach to Setting Limits and Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child" by Shauna L. Shapiro, PhD and Chris White, MD" www.amazon.com/Mindful-Discipline-Approach-Emotionally-Intelligent/dp/1608828840 is as the title says a book about how to discipline mindfully. I will add a blog post later this summer when I finish reading it.
Last but not least a book on pregnancy that will help future dads out there. "When a couple decides to have a baby, it's not only the woman who undergoes changes during pregnancy. The father, too, experiences many changes and it's important that his needs and concerns be addressed. In When She's Pregnant, noted psychologist Jerrold Lee Shapiro helps fathers-to-be understand their new roles, get involved, and prepare for fatherhood." www.amazon.com/When-Shes-Pregnant-Essential-Expectant/dp/1493197436/ref=pd_sim_sbs_b_3?ie=UTF8&refRID=1RF2W97KPTE1HD0PC9RA
Thank you for reading!
Bridget